Part-2
As a continuation to
the article Beyond every change, she was human!!!, here
I present the reason behind the few choices provided for transgenders in their
life. Before going to the real problem faced by these marginalized people,
I have to say about one of the successful person among them. It is +Kalki Subramaniam. She is a dual Master's degree holder, which is one of
the greatest struggle even for a normal person. She has addressed in lots of
famous universities around the world like IIT Madras, Jindal law school and so
on. She is a multi-faceted person. She is a transgender rights activist, an
actress, a poet and a entrepreneur. She was the first Indian transgender person
to act as a lead character in the movie named 'Narthagi', which portrays the
feeling of a transgender, their fears, love and true happiness in life. Her
name has decorated many awards like the 'Life time achievement award' from the
Lioness club in the 2009, 'Outstanding Social Worker award' from the Junior Chamber International Pondicherry White Town in
the year 2013. She was invited by the government of the United States of
America for a 16 days Human Rights activism & Awareness program through
IVLP to Washington DC, New York and Salt Lake City. She is the first trans
sexual foreign national to be invited by the United States government. She has
also been invited internationally to speak on marginalized people's rights. She
has found Sahodari foundation, to help the
transgenders get independence in life.
There
are lots of transgenders, who have achieved a lot. But she is my personal
favorite because, she is a writer. Her book, 'Kuri Aruthen' has won the Best
Poet award from the Born2Win Trust, Chennai and she is also working on two
other books presently. Another thing that makes her so special to me is the
recent TEDx talk (Sep 2015). TEDx talk is a dream for many youngsters,
especially me. She spoke on the title 'The
necessity of social equality', which is really inspiring. Her dream
which was once to interview the actress Suhasini (Wife of Manirathnam), came
true, only to her surprise, it was Suhasini who was interviewing Kalki after
the film Narthagi. She quotes in this talk, "If a boy who was searching
who he was, when others were searching what to have as a career, is able to go
a lot of distances in life after becoming a woman, then I believe anyone can do
anything in this world. The achievements are not categorized according to
gender. If you believe in yourself, then you can do anything." My
interpretation of video is that, these words can be said by anyone. But she
stands there in the stage, delivering a speech and the sentence, "I'm
Kalki. I am a trangender and I'm proud of it", makes her unique.
So,
here is a human, heightened by knowledge, proud for who she is and fighting for
what people like her really want - respect and dignity from the
society.
I mentioned about
Kalki to show what the most of the transgenders lack- education, which she had
the privilege of having (Yes. You are reading it right. Education , which is a fundamental right of every Indian becomes a privilege for transgenders) and hence made her stand apart from everyone.
In my first post on
transgenders, I promised that I would talk with Leela again, to convey that to her. Many people gave their views: what they thought about transgenders
before reading the article and how the article changed their view. Many
requested to talk to Leela as soon as possible and record her response. Yes, I
did call her. It was after a long hesitation and fear. My fear was that she
would have given me a wrong number. After sitting and thinking in front of the
phone for a long time, I called the number Leela gave. The number rang. So, I
was relieved that at least it was a number that worked. Then after
four to five rings, I was attended by the same voice that spoke to me before
and the good thing was that she remembered me as a girl who took her a picture.
But I had to make a series of calls to get some response.
First call.. 9.30 AM
I was shy to talk and
she was busy cooking. I thought, except me everybody in this world is busy
and asked when to call her. I was given the time as 2.30.
Second call.. 2.30 PM
I have never been so
punctual to call someone. I called her that day, again. I was sure this time
what to talk. But, she was not. She replied with a fear. I could feel that in
her voice, a fear of talking to a stranger. I asked her if she had a account in
Facebook and if I could share the article with her. She said she had a account
but in a boy's name. I wanted to ask her few more questions. But, she again cut
me short and asked me to call her after sometime.
Third call.. 4.30 PM
This was the second
time in my life I was calling someone on the time they gave. Yeah!! I called
her again and this time the voice was different. I was afraid that she has
given the phone to someone to scold me for disturbing her again and again. To
my surprise, I learnt that it was her daughter (This girl- Poornima, again a
transgender, called Leela her Amma when she spoke to me). She said her Amma was
sleeping. I asked where they were living and with whom. She said they were
three people living together in Nungambakkam. Poornima, Leela and Leela's
mother (She did not say me her name, but said she was also a transgender).
Leela was sleeping and so I decided to talk to Poornima.
"I was avoided
by my family. I had no place to go and finally I was taken by my Amma.",
she said.
"Did you
study?", it was me.
"Yes, I studied
till 12th. The government helped me complete my studies.", she
said.
"Wow!!! Then?
Did you try to study after that?", I questioned her.
"Yes. I wanted
to study after that. But that is when my parents left me. They questioned me
that what change would studying bring to me. I did not know what to say at that
time."
Her voice trailed
off.
"Its fine. Don't
feel bad about that. But even if you cannot go to the college on daily basis,
you can join distance education if you really want to study.", I suggested
her.
"Yes, I can do.
I should try that.", she said.
I also suggested her
to find about Sagothari foundation run by Kalki and asked her to try getting
some help from them.
I was a bit afraid to
tell her but told this, "If you can start a shop or something like that,
you will be treated differently. You will be treated with respect. The
Sagothari foundation can help you that way or even I know how to make
chocolates. If you are interested I can teach you how to make them and it will
fetch you a lot of money. Actually, people will not look down upon you."
I don't know where
did I get that strength. I talked continuously.
Thank god. She did
not cut the call. She should have understood my concern.
"Yeah. If I have
a thought, I will call you. Take my number too. In case if you want to talk
anything, you talk to me. My mom feels uncomfortable to talk to
strangers.", she said.
I thanked her for
talking to me.
End of the call.
My opinion goes with him. They are rejected for what they were not responsible. To finance the operation to convert their private parts itself becomes a challenge for them. Education becomes out of picture at an age they need it most. Support by the u r loved ones is not provided when they badly need it. They get a wrong impression that dressing and making up their face is the only thing they can do. This has to be changed. I don't have the idea how it can be done. But, will be proud to help them to the any extent. Yes, I believe I will do. If you can, don't hesitate.
Accept them as who they are.
Post Script: I tried to serch Leela's FB page. But it was difficult to trace. I don't have the courage to call her again for that. The next time I call her, I would have figured out a way to help them all.